Over the past few years I’ve had the problem with friendships of, ok you said you wanted to do something but you won’t respond…..
How much do we push/pull those we are in relationship with? When do we just throw up our hands?
I don’t want to be the “annoying” person who is nagging people to do things they said they want to do. But I also don’t want to be the friend who just doesn’t care and doesn’t do anything.
So I’m in a tough spot…..
I have friends who want to hang but show no motiviation to connect. Friends who have mutual goals with me but don’t respond to trying to put a plan in action…….
What am I to do? Is it the good old three strikes and your out? Do I need to take a more confrontational approach (ie making phone calls instead of emails/text?)? Do I just sit back and leave the ball in the other persons court?
I want friends that pursue me and care about me, and I thought the way to help nurture that was to do the same for them. But apparently that doesn’t work anymore…. I don’t want to drive people away but I do want to encourage people to grow and to be in community.
Part of me again wants to throw up my hands and says who cares……
I know what I need to do when people pursue me. I need to respond and be involved not just fluff it off……
So whats your thoughts? What do you do?
~tfkr
