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Book Review: Surfing For God

 Surfing for GodDiscovering the Divine Desire Beneath Sexual Struggle

 By Michael Cusick
Published by Thomas Nelson

Michael’s book is a fresh breathe in the men’s self help books.  I spent time in my under grad and graduate work doing research on pornography addiction and this book I feel is a valuable resource.

Cusick addresses the validity of the addiction and the struggle of it and uses his own personal experiences as a counselor and an individual who he himself has experienced the struggle.  He addresses not only the psychological but also the spiritual, physical and practical levels of the struggle.  I appreciate that Cusick spoke to the spiritual warfare side of things and addressed that the battle is not just the psychological aspects.  Many people fail to understand the whole picture of the addiction and the addict and only look at select aspects of the issues.

Cusick handles well the issues and helps the reader to see that the struggle is really tied to their search for God and true intimacy and love.  He helps the reader to understand and hear the lies that they believed about themselves that may tie them to their struggle or addiction whatever it may be.  Cusick writes in specific about sexual addiction but his principles can be used to address many addictions and struggles.

This book is a definite must read for any person who struggles with sexual addiction.  I also think any pastor or youth pastor should read this book and use it as a reference in their counseling.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze®.com <http://BookSneeze®.com> book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 <http://www.access.gpo.gov/nara/cfr/waisidx_03/16cfr255_03.html> : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”


Book Review: Our Favorite Sins by Todd D. Hunter

Our Favorite Sins:  The Sins We Commit and How You Can Quit

By Todd Hunter
Published by Thomas Nelson

This book is one that I believe any person trying to deal with sin and temptation should read. It provides the reader with a thoughtful reflection upon sin and what it reveals about oneself and their battle with sin.

One of the key things that Hunter points out is at issue within a person as they deal with sin and temptation is the idea and issue of disordered desires. He states “Beating temptation requires struggle because it always involved sorting out rightly ordered desires for good and godly things from our disordered desires for wrong things” (pg. 3).  This is one of the things i think many people don’t realize about their struggle with sin.  We think it is just something that we can stop, but behind each struggle of sin is a desire and we need to find ways to correctly and rightly fulfill those desires. Hunter points out that this is not an easy battle but something that does take work and energy.

So often we get beaten down in our spiritual journey because we think that it should be easier than it turns out to be. He walks through providing the reader with insight into this struggle and battle and gives hope to the reader that they will be able to deal with their temptation with God’s help and a right understanding of it.

The book provides both a theological and practical insight into this issue that affects all of mankind in one way or anther.  This book is one that I think everyone should take a look at and glean some insight and application steps that they can apply to their own lives.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze®.com <http://BookSneeze®.com> book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 <http://www.access.gpo.gov/nara/cfr/waisidx_03/16cfr255_03.html> : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”


Book Review: Take Your Best Shot

Take Your Best Shot Do Something Bigger Than Yourself By Austin Gutwein with Todd Hillard Published by Thomas Nelson

Take Your Best Shot is an inspiring book that I wish had been around when I was younger. 

It is a simple  read that challenges you to go for your dreams and not to shy away from them because of your age.

Hearing the story of how a child has made such a great impact by purusing his dream reminds us that God can and will use us.  We can’t wait for the opportunity to land in our lap but we must have courage and step out in faith and trust that God will move in and through us.

This is definetly a read for both young and old.


Hey All—What do you want to hear about?

Trying to get myself back into my blogging routine. What things do you want to hear about? What issues or questions do you want to discuss? Let me know your thoughts. Going to resurrect a topic of Love is… that I never got going. Other things I’m thinking on will be accountability and being the Body….. Give me some ideas. Thanks!

~Tfkr


New Start

Well alot has been going on lately.  I just finished seminary in the last weeks and people keep asking me what am I doing next……  My honest and truthful answer.  As of right now…… What I’m doing right now……  I have no current plans to change anything.  While I have now obtained my Masters of Art in Religion with a Church Ministries emphasis, I have no current plans to pursue full time ministry. As many places are requiring more experience than I currently have I plan to try to find opportunities to expand my experience. We are currently happy where we are and want to stay here so that also greatly limits what the possibilities are.  

I do have some immediate plans and desires.  Most of these come out of my experiences of being a full time student, and also as a result of my current mens group.
1.  A more consistent and devoted time to my Lord.
2. More loving husband and father.
3.  More time reading books that of interest to me and my growth. 
4.  Blogging more.
Thats just a start but I believe that God has allowed me to finish my education and get more experience in life before stepping out to serve Him in full time ministry. 
~tfkr

What we need, What I need

“What a man needs is a brother to draw close, minister to him, and help him mature. He needs somebody to demonstrate to him another way to live, modeling a godly marriage, biblical parenthood, and the love of Christ.”
Steve Sonderman, Effective Men’s Ministry-
We all have things in our lives that aren’t perfect. We are all impacted by the things in our past. These things are the things that make us who we are. Though at times they may be shameful or things that we don’t want everyone else to know. We need that one person in our life who knows us and can speak truth into our lives. Who can ask us the hard questions, Who can encourage us, and build us up to be the Men that God created us to be.
Its hard to find quality people who we can trust to speak into our lives and accept our brokeness. Some people have more brokeness than others, but most importantly we are all children of God. If you have people around you that you know need to have truth spoken to them in love, please step up to the plate. If you need someone to speak truth to you Pray, and seek out a Godly person near you.
It is important that we seek to grow as the men God has called us to be. We need to understand the love of Christ in our lives and through our friendship. God does speak to us through those around us and for people who have self esteem issues or struggles that seem hopeless it is important that they experience Christ through those around them.
~tfkr